Caregiving, Cookies and Self-Care by MJ Santangelo

Caregiving, Cookies and Self-Care By MJ Santangelo I’m a wife, a mother of two, a caregiver for my mom and a struggling author. I love warm barely cooked chocolate chip cookies straight out of the oven. Oh, who am I kidding sometimes they don’t even make it to the oven! I don’t endorse eating raw cookie dough, you know because of salmonella blah, blah, blah. Anyway, seven years ago, due to some new diagnoses my mom’s health became too much for her to manage on her own. So I stepped in to help. I quickly found myself thrown into a balancing act I was not prepared for. When looking back on those first few years when my life turned itself upside down I remember one of my biggest fears … [Read more...]

Messy Bun, Yoga Pants and Working from Home

Guess what I’m wearing? The same thing I wear every day. Yoga pants. One of my 100 pairs of black yoga pants and one of my 100 v-neck black t-shirts. We had no plans this weekend, and I honestly don’t remember the last time I showered. Ummm, now might be that time.... BRB. Ok, it’s 3 hours later and I am showered and dressed in a fresh pair of black yoga pants and a black t-shirt. Why does a shower turn into three hours? Well, shave everything and refresh the purple on my hair, a conditioning mask, then I read because I got overheated from the shower and had to lay down. Eyebrow grooming, then I had lunch and I’m back. Such is the life of a work-at-home mom. And also the reason it’s been … [Read more...]

Confessions of a Night Owl

Confessions of a Night Owl One thing I always read is that morning people tend to be healthier and thinner. People who eat breakfast are usually thinner. People who get the right amount of sleep tend to be thinner. No wonder I’m fat! My bedtime is 4:00am. Last night I tried for 2 but it was 4:40 before I got in bed, then read till 5. When I was in college I scheduled later classes and often pulled all-nighters to study (still graduated at the top of my class). When I had a real job out of the house, I was late every day. It was my only issue. I also stayed late at work every day, always the last to leave. Why? Because I was not productive before noon. I was in advertising sales, so we … [Read more...]

Proud Quitter – Guest post by Kari

Starting on Monday. What an ideal concept, right? Like Monday is the automatic reset button for everything and anything you've ever started or attempted to stop in your life. Diets. Quitting smoking. Exercising. Mending fences with someone. We've all said it but I wonder how many people have actually stuck to it. I can say that, for myself, I have failed miserably at most things I have said this about except quitting smoking. I loved everything about smoking. I loved the act of buying the packs of cigarettes, slamming them unopened on my palm to "pack" them (apparently this helps them burn longer), unwrapping the cellophane, and lighting it up. There was nothing like the first … [Read more...]

Plus Sized Women with Average Sized Men

I'm plus sized my husband is not. Last week a ‘fitness trainer’ wanna-be model wrote that he and his friends laugh at men who have partners that are bigger than them. This really hit home for me and hurt more than I wish it did. My husband is 150 pounds. I will never be 150 pounds again. Even when we met when I was a size 7, I was 144. I was also 19 and didn’t have 2 kids and a connective tissue disease. My husband, bless him, has never said a word about my weight gain over the years. He fell in love with my ass at 144 pounds and still tells me he loves it daily, 31 years and 70 pounds later. He still lets me know he wants me. He still makes me feel desired. He still compliments … [Read more...]

Fat Shamers Not Welcome Here

More Fat Shamers Show Their Colors If you didn’t hear all of the commotion yesterday, there was a little backlash to the Cosmopolitan UK cover with plus-sized supermodel Tess Holliday on the cover. Some fitness trainer/wannabe model suggested that people unfriend him if they find that attractive. The nasty responses from people who agreed with him were absolutely horrifying. Yes, Tess put herself out there knowing there would be backlash and not caring, in fact, that’s WHY she did it. Tess Holliday has been an outspoken advocate for body confidence since she created the #effyourbeautystandards campaign on Instagram. She said she created the popular hashtag “out of frustration” and to … [Read more...]

Confessions of a Weed Smoking Mom – Guest Post by Jen

I am Jen. I am a bestselling author. I smoke pot. I am the mini-van driving soccer mom with 4 kids and I do it on the reg. I would love to tell you I don’t do it when I’m responsible for other people’s kids, but I’d be lying. High is my normal. I have smoked pot since I was a teenager and now in my mid-40s, I still smoke. Daily. I am not a hippie. In fact, I am that normal suburban wife you see in your local Kroger. I’m room mom. I’m on the PTA and the school band board. My husband coached our son’s little league team and he smokes it daily as well. He goes to work high and is a very successful accountant. We don’t drink often (maybe 6 drinks a year at most). We don’t take … [Read more...]