The Sandwich Generation – Guest Post by Chelly

Guest Post by Chelly Massey I am a part of the Sandwich Generation, and no that’s not because I started Keto and don’t eat bread. Although some days, I would cut off my left hand for a #11 no tomatoes from Jimmy John’s. No, I am a member of the ever-growing population known as “The Sandwich Generation.” The phrase was coined back in 1981 by social worker Dorothy Miller, to describe those adults in their 30-40s who are caring for our aging parents while also raising our own kids and growing our careers. I was forced into this role back around 2011. 18 years earlier, my Dad in his early 50s was diagnosed with Parkinson’s Disease. At that time, I thought Parkinson’s meant shaking hands and … [Read more...]

The Reality of Perimenopause

I talked about getting old last week. Now let’s talk about the hell that is menopause, or actually Perimenopause. Because of the autoimmune illnesses I have, I can’t take hormones. My husband has a fear of doctors and will never get snipped. I should have tied my tubes during my last c-section but never thought about it until the doctor put me on the spot in the middle of the operation. So we’ve been using condoms for years and taking our chances for the couple of days before and after my period. Well now that I never know when to expect my period, that fun is shot. For the last 2-3 years, I started getting irregular. I should also own stock in EPT, because we were careful, but those … [Read more...]

Getting Old Sucks

The Side Effects No One Told Me This morning I was putting on my makeup about 45 minutes after I got up and noticed the sheet marks still creasing half of my face. A few years back, they would be gone after my first morning pee. Today they were still there when I left the house. Luckily my long hair covered most of it because I looked disfigured. As I am struggling to lose weight, I do worry about my skin not bouncing back. I have seen people who lose weight look much older, and when people tell me I don’t look even close to my age, I know it’s just my fat plumping out those wrinkles. Yesterday I trimmed and refreshed the purple in my hair. My hair grazed my ass when it was wet, and … [Read more...]

The Wake-Up Call I Needed

Exercise or Die? The big news story in the last two days is a new study that just came out. It is a very detailed and comprehensive study that proves that being sedentary is worse for your health than smoking, having high blood pressure or even diabetes. The study also proved that there is no such thing as too much exercise at any age. According to a CNN interview with Dr. Jaber, the head of the study, "comparing those with a sedentary lifestyle to the top exercise performers, he said, the risk associated with death is "500% higher", and three times higher than smoking! "Being unfit on a treadmill or in an exercise stress test has a worse prognosis, as far as death, than being … [Read more...]

Trying to Trick Myself

Lying To Myself and Trying to Fool Myself I’m late to everything. It’s not disrespect, I just suck at time management. I’ll start getting ready 2 hours before I leave, then spend ½ hour tweezing my eyebrows while reading a book because I think I have all the time in the world. So I lie to myself. I randomly put things in my calendar 15 minutes earlier than they are, then I never remember which I did it for, so I assume all of them, then I’m late to everything. Starting on Monday is the BIG lie I like to tell myself. Well, I DO start on Monday then finish Monday afternoon! 😂. Now I am thinking of the best way to combat this. I go to my WW Workshop on Wednesday at noon. The day works of … [Read more...]

Caregiving, Cookies and Self-Care by MJ Santangelo

Caregiving, Cookies and Self-Care By MJ Santangelo I’m a wife, a mother of two, a caregiver for my mom and a struggling author. I love warm barely cooked chocolate chip cookies straight out of the oven. Oh, who am I kidding sometimes they don’t even make it to the oven! I don’t endorse eating raw cookie dough, you know because of salmonella blah, blah, blah. Anyway, seven years ago, due to some new diagnoses my mom’s health became too much for her to manage on her own. So I stepped in to help. I quickly found myself thrown into a balancing act I was not prepared for. When looking back on those first few years when my life turned itself upside down I remember one of my biggest fears … [Read more...]

Messy Bun, Yoga Pants and Working from Home

Guess what I’m wearing? The same thing I wear every day. Yoga pants. One of my 100 pairs of black yoga pants and one of my 100 v-neck black t-shirts. We had no plans this weekend, and I honestly don’t remember the last time I showered. Ummm, now might be that time.... BRB. Ok, it’s 3 hours later and I am showered and dressed in a fresh pair of black yoga pants and a black t-shirt. Why does a shower turn into three hours? Well, shave everything and refresh the purple on my hair, a conditioning mask, then I read because I got overheated from the shower and had to lay down. Eyebrow grooming, then I had lunch and I’m back. Such is the life of a work-at-home mom. And also the reason it’s been … [Read more...]