Recently I went away for Wicked Girls Book Weekend, and found myself at the older end of the spectrum. What? When the fuck did I get OLD? I mean I found myself hanging out with a few girls that have MOTHERS younger than me! WTF?
I’m in my mid 40s. I have a second grader and a teenager, so they keep me kind of young. Most people tell me I look way younger, but really, who is going to say I look my age? I think that having the extra fat just puffs out my wrinkles. But I’m sure my fair skin and my avoidance of sun have helped.?My husband is significantly older than me, I think he looks pretty hot too, despite the hair loss.
I consider us the “younger” group of the people my age. There are other moms I know, who are way younger than me that just seem so much older. Maybe because they never seem to let loose and have fun. ?My kids say I’m a “cool mom” (but not that cool). I don’t take myself too seriously, and try to have fun and enjoy myself. (Plus, I tend to act like an obnoxious 12 year old boy.) Even more as I get older, I am just over all the hang-ups I had when I was younger. I don’t care if I fit in with the PTA moms, or the gorgeous skinny suburban moms. If you don’t like me the way I am, I am not going to change for you or pretend to be something I’m not.
But as I look back to my 20s and 30s I wonder, do I want to go back? Sure, I’d love to be thin and healthy without the need for glasses. I’d love to have non-floppy boobs and be able to wear 5 inch heels and dance all night. But I honestly have to say, I am happier than ever in my life. I am so much more settled in who I am as a wife, a mother, a friend and a person. My husband and I have been through all the hurdles and came out the other side unscathed and stronger than ever.?Our sex life is better than ever, and I’m enjoying watching my kids blossom into wonderful, cool, funny young men, without the stresses and hang-ups I had when in my younger years.
If I look back in my life, and think about an age I’d like to go back to, I honestly can’t think of one. Maybe a year or two ago because I love the kids a little younger, but then I didn’t have these blogs that I love. Any time before that, and I had the stresses (and joys) of little kids, but my marriage wasn’t as strong.
I am also very lucky I still have healthy parents. We lost my father-in-law last year, and I guess the only thing really scaring me about the future is the thought of losing my parents, or God forbid, my OLD husband. (He’s 8 years older than me, totally a cradle robber when we met 26 years ago).
One thing I won’t let happen: I will NOT let age take me! I’m gonna fight with wrinkle cream and hair dye when I need it. I will not cut my hair short because I’m old. I’ll get a tattoo at 45! I can still get crazy! It may take me longer to recover, and I may forget what I was doing in the first place, but I am NOT old…honestly, I’ve gotten bigger and better with age.
As I add the Miralax to my coffee, I ask…What about you? Do you have an age you wish you could go back to?
Mindy S says
Thank you so much for that !! It had me laughing a lot ! I feel exactly that way !! I am a month away from 41 have 13 & 10 year old boys ! I love my life as it is now .. saggy boobs, belly and all ! My hubby is 9 years older and we have been married for 22 years this year ! I would not go back and change anything ! I feel as young as I did 15 years ago except the exertion of these things tends to take a week of recovery instead of a day ! I tend to hang around people younger than me because I don’t tend to act like the other moms my age either ! I’m comfy with who I am and if you don’t like me then I’m ok with that ! I did get my first (not last) tattoo at 40 !! Thanks for sharing ! I loved it 🙂
Ana says
Aaawww….thanks! Sounds like we have a similar life! You sound awesome!
Debbie says
I shopped at Platos Closet the other day. Found some stuff I liked and as I was in line to pay, I read a big sign on the wall “clothing for teen and mid-twenty something guys and girls”. So here I am happy about the great bargains I found, and I look around and realize the cashier must think I’m buying for my daughter because I am clearly 20 years older than the average customer! UGH!!!
Ana says
Please Deb, you look like you are 22. Even my teenager (who says everyone is old) says how young you look. I’d say bitch here, but I love you too much xoxoxo
Jen says
I feel just like you! I am going to be 40 in 2 months but inside I swear I am still 19! So glad to know I’m not the only one who feels this way. Too bad I don’t have that 19 year old body anymore though . 3 kids in 5 years will do that I guess.
Ana says
But they are worth it 🙂
Scheva says
Yeah, I’m 38 with 2 kiddos. I facebook, instagram, twitter ( just to follow Wicked Girls Weekend lol) and I feel pretty young for my age but got knocked down a few pegs last weekend. Had a girls night out with a couple of co-workers ( the fun ones!) Three of us are married and around 40 but one girl is 25 and single. Of course she knew EVERYONE everywhere we went. Then her friend, MR Sex Goddess himself, looks at me across the table and says Damn, baby, you are a MILF. My eyes were saucers as my drunken mind processed his statement. First- cool, he thinks I’m hot 🙂 Second, when did I go from being hot to being a hot MOM. :/ not sure how I feel about that. Except now I see Mr Sex Goddess at MY GYM! And he talks to me 🙂 and I work out a little harder and my work out buddies are way jealous I have a new friend! Hehe
BUTTTTT……if I could go back to college and be 20 again I would do it in a heart beat. That was the most fun and free time I have ever had in my life !
Scheva says
Ana, why do you get to be all cute in your pic with a book and a cupcake and my pic looks like a booger with arms, legs, and a fake halo!?
Ana says
go here: https://en.gravatar.com But I like your booger.
Ana says
I would not mind being a MILF!
scheva says
Ill try and own my MILFNESS. And thanks for the gravatar link!