My husband is all lean muscle. All 150 pounds that he struggles to keep on his 5’10.5″ frame. He struggles to gain weight! I want to just say a big fuck you to him, but then again, I love every inch of his body. And, yeah, he is big where it counts. When we met, I was average sized, about a size 8. He was even skinnier than me then. As the years have gone by, we have both put on weight. His is 20 pounds of muscle. Mine is 75 pounds of fat.
He forgets to eat!!! Who does that? I have NEVER forgotten to eat! I could be stuffed to the gills, but I’m still thinking about what I should eat next. He doesn’t really snack, I can find something to snack on all day (and I do).
Part of me would like to be with a bigger guy, just to feel smaller for a change. But not really. I love my guy. He NEVER makes me feel fat. He is strong enough to move me and flip me into any position he wants, and NOT ONCE has he ever made a comment about my weight. In fact, he still tells me he loves my body every day. He isn’t a so-called “chubby chaser” but I know he prefers a woman with a little meat on her bones (especially an ass, but not meat like mine!).
Why is this coming up? Well we recently had a fight about it. He thinks I really want someone bigger. I think he would naturally want someone smaller. What a stupid thing to fight about! I love my guy more than anything. And I love him exactly the way he is, as long as he loves me the way I am (and if our very active sex-life is any indication, he does). We have been together for 26 years and I have always been bigger than him. But he’s still the alpha, strong, manly-man I love.
A few weeks ago, I was on Last Call with Brittany. All 6 of us had the same thing!!! We all have skinny husbands! Apparently this is more common than I realized.
There is a teenaged kid that goes to my son’s music school. He is skinny like my son (who is 5’10” and 125), but his girlfriend has at least 50 pounds on him, she is definitely a curvy/chubby girl. I saw him with her about 8 months ago, and I was so happy to see that. ?I immediately liked the kid more for looking past all the superficial bullshit to what is inside. When I saw the couple again this past weekend, I was thrilled to see them still together. The boy is in college now, and still with the curvy (but cute) girl.
I always feel like people are looking at us wondering what he is doing with me. Then I meet someone like the awesome Jasinda Wilder who is a gorgeous bigger girl with a very small husband. And I love them together. I have to learn to stop worrying about what others think and start worrying about things that deserve my worry. Like being HEALTHY.
What are your thoughts? Are you bigger than your guy? Do you look at couples like this and wonder what’s up? Does your husband’s weight affect you?